Robert Fulghum's book, Letters to our Children, is a collection of advice given from parents and grandparents to their offspring. In one essay titled, Don't Fail Failure, a grandfather tells his grandson that some form of failure is inevitable in life. Failure itself is not the end. The key is to learn from that failure, get back up, and try again. I believe the same thing is true with criticism. It's important for you and your company to learn how to effectively deal with corrections and complaints. Don't fail criticism.
No one likes hearing what he or she is doing wrong. But, criticism, both valid and invalid, is inevitable. In my many years in broadcast journalism, I've seen and received plenty of criticism. I've covered corporations who have received criticism and watched how they responded. I've been the target of criticism myself. Whether it's from angry viewers, politicians unhappy with my reporting or paid consultants who nitpick at the slightest issues with my on-air performance, criticism is never fun. But, those experiences have helped me develop a set of guidelines for receiving and responding to criticism.
Don't Get Defensive
This first step is probably the hardest. When we are being criticized, it feels like we are being personally attacked. Our natural fight or flight instinct kicks in. Neither fighting back nor fleeing will help you or your company benefit from criticism. Only bad outcomes are possible when you are feeling defensive. No matter how nasty the comments or corrections are, you must remain above the fray. If you need to step away from the criticism for a few minutes to let those fight or flight feelings fade, then do it. Just make sure when you do come back to the face the music, your defenses are down and you are open to learning from the experience.
Give the Critic the Benefit of the Doubt
This step may actually help you with step one. Assume the person who is flaming your company on social media is actually a good person who only has your best interests at heart. That's probably not true, but it doesn't matter. What's important is how you respond and assuming your critic has altruistic intentions will put you in a better frame of mind to react to the communication.
Look for Nuggets of Truth
Even in the nastiest, most unfair, and most offensive critiques, there is often a small kernel of truth. It may be something you hadn't noticed before or hadn't thought of from that particular viewpoint. Once you sift through the nasty, angry, and intentionally hurtful words to find that valid idea, you can start to benefit from what would otherwise only be a negative encounter. This is only possible if you've already done steps one and two. If you are closed off, defensive and assume your critic is a bitter jerk who spends his days in his underwear in his basement trolling the internet to pick on innocent, unsuspecting companies, you stand no chance of finding that small, correctable point.
Respond From the High Road
Remember your critic is also a potential customer. No matter how much vitriol has been posted to your company's homepage, don't respond in kind. Instead, be kind. Even if you aren't able to win this person over, anyone else who sees this interaction might still be persuadable. If you remain professional, you are much more likely to earn new fans.
Examples
I have two examples of corporate responses to criticism to share with you, and they both came as a result of my recent blog, Brands in Drought. In case you missed that post, I was criticizing a promo running on KSLA, the CBS station in Shreveport, LA. I argued the commercial they were running for their weather department was doing more to hurt the reputation and brand image of their weather team than it was helping. I suggested another commercial should be cut that promoted the experience and professionalism of KSLA's weather staff.
I believe KSLA did a great job of reacting to this public criticism. They didn't get defensive. KSLA never sent me an angry email or demanded that I withdraw my blog post. They didn't publicly attack me or try portray me as a disgruntled, former employee. Instead, they read the criticism and looked for the nuggets of truth. I'm not privy to the inner workings of station management any more, but I do know the blog post was discussed. As a result, the station pulled the ad that was the topic of my criticism and have now replaced it with one that does a better job of promoting the professionalism and experience of their weather department.
In this case, KSLA never directly communicated with me about my criticism. That's probably the best strategy from their point of view. My criticism was posted on my website and social media, not theirs. KSLA has a lot more power on air and online than my company does, so any direct response to my blog would have generated much more attention than the blog ever could have on its own. As a result, most of KSLA's audience doesn't know that I criticized the company. They just know they aren't seeing the bad weather commercial anymore.
I did receive criticism from a visitor to www.silvertongue.marketing about that same post. Here it is followed by my response. Here's your chance to be a critic. How well did I do at following my own guidelines?
Rodney C. Lewis A day ago
Perhaps, if one was truly serious about brand identity, one would have a copy editor look over one's post.
Especially considering the first two paragraphs have no less than five AP Style errors.
You credibility looks shakier than your writing.
Godammit A day ago
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Stephen Parr An hour ago
Rodney,
Thanks for visiting silvertongue.marketing and taking the time to read my blog post. You are correct. I didn't follow AP Style in this blog posting. For example, you'll notice I double space after every period throughout the article. I do this because I believe the double space makes it easier to visualize the end of one thought and the beginning of another. AP disagrees.
I believe excellent communication is more about function than form. TV commercials don't follow AP Style. Neither do print or radio ads. They are successful in influencing the behaviors of the buying public nonetheless. Even your comment doesn't follow AP Style. Your second sentence isn't actually a sentence. Despite that, I was fully able to receive and understand the points you were making. Again, function was more important than form. If it was the other way around, I'd probably write everything in Haiku because that would be a lot of fun. Not effective at all, but certainly fun.
When viewed through the lens of function being more important than form, this particular blog post can only be seen as an unmitigated success which bolstered my company's credibility. There was a dramatic spike in unique visitors, page views and time spent on www.silvertonge.marketing immediately after I published this blog and shared it to social media. People who did not know about my company before the post spent time browsing my site. That's effective marketing.
It was also effective and persuasive communication. In just a few hours after this blog was posted, management at KSLA visited my site and read my post. They then pulled the specific promo I was criticizing. Before the blog, it was in heavy rotation. After the blog, it never ran again. It's taken a few weeks, but KSLA produced a new weather promo highlighting the professionalism and experience of their weather team. They show how that knowledge and the weather technology can be used to protect KSLA's viewers, especially during severe weather. It's exactly the type of brand promotion I advocated in my blog post. What percentage of criticism on the internet can boast a 100% success rate in changing the behavior of the company being criticized? I don't know the exact number, but I would wager it's microscopically small. KSLA obviously found my free advice to be valuable to them despite my lack of proper AP form.
I am passionate about communication. I enjoy helping people and companies get their ideas out to a wider audience. It's why our branding says, "Giving Voice to Vision." We tell your story in the most compelling way we can to help you change the behavior of your audience. Rodney, I'm not sure what line of work you are in, but I'd love to talk to you about whether I can help you tell your story in a manner that's as effective as this blog post has been.
Thanks again for your time and interest in Silver Tongue Communications.
-Stephen Parr
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